Answer: I know quite a few adults who are still working on this, as well. What ever method you use, it takes practice, practice, practice. The repetition is what helps form the skill.

Ask his teacher what system of organization teachers use in helping kids with their desks, assignment and homework tracking, school-day schedule, etc. You may be able to use the same techniques at home, and that would reinforce his skills in more than one environment. If what is happening in the classroom doesn't work for him, or can't be duplicated at home, that's OK. You can always start having him organize his workspace and room., When he has those mastered, you can move on to the classroom.

I think children find organizing fun when they get to participate in designing their routine and can take ownership of their process. Let your son figure out with you what works best for him. Ask him what he thinks will help him keep track of his things. Find out if he likes things numbered, color-coded, or written out. What does he best respond to? We all learn differently.

Approach organizing as a fun thing and give him positive feedback for his ideas. Be creative. Maybe the two of you can spearhead a family-organizing activity for your whole household and that way it won't feel to him as though he has "a problem." Maybe you can finally get that one drawer in the kitchen or your closet cleaned up with his help.

Debra Collins is a licensed marriage and family therapist. Debra has worked in both primary and middle schools as a school counselor. She gives workshops to teachers and students on a variety of topics concerning youth and families and offers parenting classes and parent coaching to parents throughout the Bay Area. Debra is also a mental health assessor for the San Francisco Unified School District.

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September 2006